Having grown up in Australia and coming to the UK in my mid teens, I remember being somewhat bemused by characters in ‘Casualty’ and ‘The Bill’ offering cups of tea whenever bad news was delivered. To me it didn’t make any sense – why would a ‘cuppa’ help if you have just received devastating news?
A friend recently asked me how and where they could refer another friend for therapy. I have since been reflecting on the role of friendship and its significance for our emotional wellbeing. As women, we spend our lives fostering friendships, working on these special relationships. They endure break ups, funerals, births and weddings - life! We share many of our most intimate thoughts and feelings with our closest friends.
I recently read an article in the guardian about the silence surrounding postnatal depression, and how we would rather chat about our babies, whilst struggling to talk about the exhaustion, responsibility and how overwhelmed we are. There seems to be an assumption, not only amongst new mothers, but society in general, that we are supposed to be gloriously happy when our baby is born, and if we do not experience this joy, there is something wrong with us!
This coming week, I’m going to be guest-hosting a twitter chat. It is the weekly #BabyLossHour, a regular space created by Jess (@TheLegacyOfLeo ) for those affected or invested in all things Baby Loss to meet, chat and discuss. I have been doing lots of thinking, reflecting and researching in preparation for this. Below are a few of my thoughts.